Love That Can’t Be Bought

Today, Fr. Chris Alar reflects on the true meaning of love through the example of St. Martin of Tours — a man remembered for one simple act of charity. A Roman soldier who divided his cloak to clothe a beggar, St. Martin discovered that in serving the poor, he had served Christ Himself (cf. Mt 25:40). What seems like a small moment reveals an eternal truth: love is not sentiment but sacrifice.

We often misuse the word “love.” We say we love our favorite show, a meal, or even a football team — but authentic Christian love runs much deeper. As St. Thomas Aquinas teaches, “To love is to will the good of another.” (ST I-II, Q.26, A.4) True love is not indulgent approval of anything someone does; it’s the desire for their eternal good, even when that means speaking truth or making hard choices.

Fr. Chris reminds us that not all giving is love. Some give out of duty, guilt, or to feel superior — but only one kind of love endures before God: the love that gives simply because it can’t do otherwise. The love that expects no return. The love that flows from a heart transformed by grace.

This is the love of Christ on the Cross — “while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” (Rom 5:8) It is the love that becomes mercy when it takes action, when it clothes the naked, visits the sick, forgives, and gives without reward. It is the love that turns the ordinary into something eternal.